Delayed Ejaculation

[chevynova22003]

I hope to talk to someone that has been dealing with this in life or may offer help.I am taking medication ,and need help,i can not get help from any doctor i have talked to yet.,,,,HELP PLEASE

[Fugu]

Hi. I understand that your Ejaculation takes a long time. I have a similar slow to come ejaculation and dont know why. I think it may be caused by A) many atacks of Genital Herpes B) masturbation done roughly(as a result of the absence of my wife). It is worse if I have been drinking . Also, my age 50+ where my Testosterone production is clearly lowered.
I hope this was helpful.Some with the latter complaint take a herb called Tongkat ali, which apparently solves the problem.

[hotromantic]

Good others to share this with. I have almost given up on women totally because of this..I dont date anymore..have had traumatic experiences because of this, just pay and go get with hookers pretty much (use condoms) because I know if they find out about this it just will ruin the relationship. So I dont wanna get involved with anyone because of this..it makes me even feel suicidal at times now because I don't know where to turn...

I just had sex yesterday and same thing...I didnt finish..she did... I had to get myself off...

It's not very fun..now I'm even starting to feel like I'm paying all for nothing..the money paid isnt doing anything for me really.. So I'm about to give up.

[llt206]

Don't feel all alone ... I also have same issue. I am 53 and just this year experiencing problems.
I am thinking of going to a doctor, but you say you have and did not get help ??

[HappierNaked]

I feel your pain and I know that you are thinking that it's the end of the world. I've always been a very sexual person since I was 11 years old. The small corner grocery owner used to sell me Playboy and Penthouse then.

I love sex but have been trying to cope with the loss of it. As you can also see by my user name that I am also a nudist. I just turned 58 and have diabetes. I have peripheral neuropathy (loss of feeling to my legs and hands, and most recently my penis. I also experienced a period of time where I had Peyronie's disease (pronounced curvature of the penis) which resolved itself with less than satisfactory results (my penis didn't curve to the left anymore but now it's about 2 inches shorter than it was).

My sexual performance (and fortunately I'm married to a wonderfully understanding woman) is declining rapidly and takes form in both erectile dysfunction (inability to get or maintain an erection) and delayed orgasm (taking a long time to reach orgasm). The length change has caused problems since I've steadily gained weight and now have a big belly and my wife is overweight as well. This means that "doggie style" is the only way I can reach her vagina and even then can't get in very far. Blowjobs are about the only form of stimulation that works and of late, I can't even cum that way sometimes. Pornographic videos help some, but I don't think my wife appreciates me watching them when we have sex. I've also had difficulty with masturbation. My arm and hand gets tired and I have to quit.

The long and short of it (pardon the pun) is that my sex life sucks (hmm, another pun).

I've decided to take it in stride since it appears inevitable. I've tried Viagra and Cialis and neither do much. I just don't have sensation in my penis due to the neuropathy...

So where do I go from here.....? I have a vacuum pump which gives a nice erection (It just becomes a "living dildo" with no "end game" for my wife, but she enjoys it and that's what's important) and as a nudist, I have always enjoyed and extolled the sensual pleasures of the practice. So that's where I focus. Sensual not sexual....

I know this probably didn't help, but these forums are about sharing experiences and I'm sharing mine. I hope you can find a solution for yours. I'll see you around the forum.