Erectile Dysfunction

[Syd]

Hello, I am new here and could use some advice. Sorry if this drags on...

I am a 37 year old male and after much denial(ego I guess), I am beginning to think I have ED. For some time now I have had a problem maintaining an erection during sex with my wife. I seem to have no problem becoming erect during foreplay initially but it seems as soon as actual intercourse happens I go 50-75% hard. I don't understand it, I still feel as aroused, if not more, than when I was fully erect. It has become very frustrating and starting to really affect my marriage outside of the bedroom.
My wife is beginning to take it personally. She has some self-image issues and has it in her head that the reason I can't keep it up is because she just doesn't do it for me. Nothing could be farther from the truth. I love her and am totally turned on by her. I have tried to explain this to her many times but, forgive the crudeness, she is in the mindset of the dick does not lie. This, as you can imagine, just adds to the pressure for me to perform.

After last night's attempt, things have really gotten bad. She ended up very upset and just going to bed and I sat here in the dark most of the night being miserable. This morning, she has not said a word to me. I know that she is frustrated and I know what she is thinking. We have talked about viagra in the past but she views it like I need pills to be turned on by her. Not good...

Any advice would be helpful.

Thank you.

[Nazay]

My heart goes out to you and since you posted, I hope something has changed. Last night, for the first time, my man of two years admitted to me he suffers from Erectile Disfunction. Hearing him confirm what I already knew just made me love him more as well as feel bad for him. There were times in the past where I questioned if he was attracted to me because he dated heavier women previously and I thought maybe he just wasn't physically attracted to me. I knew there was a problem early on in our relationship, but when I would try to bring it up, he would tell me he was tired or have sex with a semi hard erection. Afterwards, he would tell me how sore it was because I was so tight, but I knew that was not the reason. He has never had an erection fully since we've been together. Sometimes during intercourse, I would feel him get harder if we talked about having children together or him seeing me in a wedding dress. For whatever reason, these two things turn him on and he would at least have an orgasm. I felt inadequate as a woman or that I didn't turn him on if he didn't have an orgasm. Before our attempt at sex yesterday, we had not had sex since February 1st. I was very frustrated, but moreso because I knew there was something wrong and he wouldn't admit it. I feel so much better now that he has told me and I am so proud of him for being brave enough to admit such a thing. It was so painful for him to tell me. . . I could hear his anguish in his voice, so I know what you are feeling and I am sorry your wife is not being supportive of you.

He is going to the doctor on Thursday and told me whatever they give him or tell him he has to do he will do because he loves me and doesn't want to lose me. I can't imagine him not in my life and I know this condition is not his fault and that it has nothing to do with me. I am happy he finally trust me enough not to ridicule him and stay by his side while we get through this. I'm not going to lie and say this is not hard and beyond frustrating at times, but I love him and am willing to try whatever we need to try to improve our sex life. Maybe your wife needs to join a forum of women or go with you to the doctor so she can not make this about her and be supportive of you. Whether she knows it or not, she is making this situation worse for you. I pray your marriage will survive through this and if you need someone to talk too, I am here.

[bigprostate]

Take viagra. It helps. Buy the 100 mg tablet and cut it into four pieces. Try one piece to start with, then more if needed. She does not have to know the first time. She will like the results.
Good luck. Sounds like you need it.