Female Sexual Dysfunction

[natika74]

I have always had an active sex life, including wonderful orgasms. However, after the birth of my third child, in 2003, ny husband noticed that, during oral sex, my clitoris no longer engorged. At that time, I did not notice a decrease in pleasure at all, so I didn't worry about it. As time passed, clitoral sensation decreased greatly, now it is almost none existant and my orgasms are barely felt. This is very embarassing for me and I have yet to mention it to a physician. I enjoy sex and think about it all the time and I am devastated at the thought of not being able to climax. Someone please help!!! Is there anyone one else out there who has experienced the same? By the way, I am only 33 years old.

[thop]

Hey natika74, I hope that you are still available to answer my question...I am new to the boards here. I am looking for an answer to my problems, which are very similar to yours. I am 38 and have 3 children as well. Like you, I also had a very good sex life with strong orgasms, then about 4 years ago, I just gradually figured out that something was different. I thought that it was because we had been married for 15 years and things were a little stale, but the more I paid attention to my body and the responses it was giving (or NOT giving), I realized that I just wasn't getting a clitoral erection. No sensation radiating out at all. I still can acheive orgasm, but they are not as strong and they don't "radiate" out all over the body. I have looked and looked for answers, had testosterone, and FSH, and T3 Free, etc. checked. I just don't know what else to do, so I keep looking online.

You are the first person that I have seen with symptoms similar to mine. I hope that you have figured something out and can email me, or post a reply.

Thanks so much.

[natika74]

I thought that I was going completely crazy. Unfortunately, I still do not have any answers. I saw a uro-gynecologist in February and he basically told me that it was all in my head, maybe I was under too much stress or something. He referred me to a sex therapist. I do not feel that this will do any good. I believe my symptoms are physical and not psychological. I am still searching and will keep you posted.

[thop]

http://chealth.canoe.ca/channel_section_details.asp?text_id=1803&channel_id=7&relation_i

Above is a website that I have found that estrogen plays a part in clitoral engorgement and sensation. This is the first that I have found that sounds close to what I feel. If you have had any of the estrogen tests did they come back normal. Have you had the saliva test-I don't know the formal name for that one, I would like to have that one done, but I have to save up for it since we have no insurance and are paying completely out of pocket.

I thought that I was going crazy as well, but I think that because we do have such a good relationship and sex life, that has really helped keep us sane. This has really been difficult for both of us. It doesn't help that the healthcare people act like you have grown a third arm or something because you miss this portion of your life and want answers to getting it back.


If you have any success, please share.
I appreciate you letting me vent, and it helps to know that I am not the lone ranger in this.

[natika74]

No, I haven't had any lab testing done at all. February was the first time I actually voiced my concerns to a doctor. I was hesitant to discuss it, especially with a male, due to the risk of sounding like a sex fiend, which is exactly what he made me feel like. However, he was an older doctor and probably not used to having a female speak so candidly about her sex life. He never suggested any labs or any other possible culprits for what I am going through. I do have an appointment to see another doctor on June 16th. I will mention having some hormonal testing done and will, most certainly, keep you abreast of anything new that I may find out. Keep holding on...we are bound to find some answers. Thanks for the website link.

[thop]

"Keep holding on...WE are bound to find some answers."


WOW, it is amazing to be a WE....I have felt so alone for so long.

People would say things about "low libido, not wanting sex, too tired etc, etc." That is just not me. I want it, we still have sex 2-3 times a week, which is HUGE for some couples. And don't get me wrong, I thank God every time, but I still know how it used to be, and how it is now, and I feel so cheated. I keep thinking, I am supposed to be in this hormonally charged time, birth control is not an issue, I finally got my mind and my inhibitions (or lack of) on the same wave length, and now my body can't co operate. Ooh! So frustrating, I feel like time is flying by and I am missing it.

Well, another rant, more tears, even more prayers, and maybe closer to an answer....I will wait to hear from your dr. visit. Hopefully the dr. will listen and care about you as a person, and not stop until something is figured out.

[als6482]

I am hoping you are still available also! I am 26 with 2 children after the birth of my 2nd and a normal recovery I had no problem with my clitoris becoming engored and then it was like all of the sudden it was gone. It no longer becomes engored at all and is invisible. When my husband trys to stimulate it it usually is a little painful. I am still able to acheive an orgasm but like you said not as strong as before. I was hoping you found out some info from you doctor. Embareassment and lack of time due to a full time job and 2 children are keeping me from seeing a doctor. Please help.

[thop]

Hey als6482:

I am still here and still trying to find answers. I feel so frustrated, I still haven't gotten any better. I may be getting slowly worse. I used to get some engorgement after ALOT, and I do mean ALOT of foreplay. Sometimes 30-45 minutes of almost an overstimulation of the senses, I would finally achieve some level of sensation to where the clitoris was getting enough blood flow to achieve org. It was not as strong or as radiating, but THANK GOD it was there and it did provide sexual release. Now, it is so frustrating to work so hard at something that was once so very easy.

I have no insurance and no extra money to go Dr. hopping or doing testing that is a shot in the dark. So, I have searched the web, and haven't found a magic bullet, or case exactly like mine, but I keep hoping that one day.....I also have little or no sensitivity in the nipples.

If anyone has any information, please share.

[als6482]

I did not think to mention that but I also have decreased sensitivity in my nipples. Well, I actually have great health coverage, and I am going to make an Appt as soon as possible. Surely since my doctor delivered my daughter I can muster up the courage to just ask! I read a few topics suggesting low testosterone, which If I read correctly is in Estrogen cream? But didn't find any significant answers, I will try to do some more research in the mean time. I will def. keep you posted. It is very frusterating.
Thank you for your response.

[als6482]

I just came across this article, it doesn't exactly apply to our specific cases b/c it refers to women in menopause, however it does refer to decresed size and sensation in the clitoris. It states that using an estrogen cream that contains testosterone over a period of time will help retore function! It also states that estrogen injections will increase the size and fullness of breasts (maybe it will help with sensation?) One more question do you also have vaginal dryness. I am so dry even when using KY by the time we are finished it is bordering on painful??
Here is the link (Chapter 8 scroll down and read the section labeled "Vaginal Dryness, the relevent information to you & I is under the diagram!)

http://books.google.com/books?id=lV-fCD7VU2QC&pg=PA149&lpg=PA149&dq=can+i+put+estrogen+cream+clitoris&source=web&ots=dYGYSc3Lp5&sig=3wA7xubIn3gwU44SOERy6mgROec&hl=en&sa=X&oi=book_result&resnum=4&ct=result#PPA147,M1

I hope this helps!