[sestar017]

I have been seeing a lot of the same things woman worried about loosing there husband. I am in that same boat. I have never been real big on sex, i have never gotten anything from it. I have never had an orgasam...EVER. Like i said before i have never had much of a sex drive but I have noticed and so has my poor husband that since we had our son its even worse. I didnt have post partum depression or anything like that...I guess u can say its just getting worse i dont know if it has anything to do with having a baby. I dont even like to be touched sometimes. I want to cring away. My husband talks to me sexually and it turns me off even more. I have sex with my husband just for his satisfaction i get nothing from it. Its not good for him because he knows I get nothing out of it. I feel so helpless. I need help and quick......my husband is loosing his patients with me. There has got to be a way to fix me.

Please help

[fpstar55]

Your situation sounds identical to that of my wife. We have not found a cure but then again, she does recognize this as an essential component of life/relationships. I am sure the very few times that she engaged in sex, it was for my benefit. I try every way possible to make it good for her but she seems to lack interest even when I do find an acceptable way to stimulate her. Our relationship has and is suffering much from her abscence of drive/desire. She wants me to learn to embrace celibacy. I have become depressed. I have brought her situation up to doctors and counselors but nobody has an answer. Her "old school" ob/gyn doctor does not seem to be effective in providing any solutions. My wife wont take hormones; citing the danger of side effects. She is 55 and still menopausal or post menopausal I am not sure.
For me this is a huge problem because I wonder if any of it may be that she does not love me enough.
Her lack of interest in finding cures or solutions really hurts. Just thoought I would share a male perspective on this important issue.