Premature Ejaculation

[Bcordell]

OK, here is my story in a nutshell. My husband and I have been married now for 7 years. There is an 11 year age difference in him and I. Since we have been married, he has suffered from rapid ejaculation. And when I say "rapid" I mean RAPID! I have never had an orgasm since being with him. This is extremely frustrating to me. I have talked to him several times about this problem and he has basically laughed it off. I have gone to the extreme where I have told him I was going to have to go elsewhere to get mine if he didn't do something. I have bought creams that are suppose to help. All I got from those was a one time experience that lasted 12 whole minutes. And that wasn't even enjoyable. He kept asking me how long it had been. Nothing like making love to your husband while watching the clock! Of course I could never go elsewhere. But I thought that might get his attention so he might be more willing to get some help. Back in July, he finally went to his dr and got put on an antidepressant. But what should have lasted him for one month, he hasn't even finished taking the medication. We have tried the stop and go method, but this too does not work. He doesn't have a problem getting an erection, he just ejaculations way too fast. And what really upsets me is he just laughs about it. Sex to me is a HUGE thing. I find myself masturbating alone. But honestly, I need a man. It's just not the same. Does anyone have any advice to give me. I am at the end of my rope and not sure how much longer I can continue to go without an orgasm. Anyone with any advice?

Thanks so much!

[ecryuff]

Hi,

I'm actually one of the weird women who actually love guys with PE. In fact seeing them in such agony trying to hold back makes me have orgasms believe it or not! Anyway, how long do you expect him to last? Most men only last an average of less than 3 mins (if they are honest). In that sense, 12 mins is very good. Most men I date, admittedly I tend to date really young ones, last less than 15 seconds. But I never give them a hard time about it, in fact, they feel much more at ease about it because they know I actually like it. Maybe I'm just lucky that I don't require much stimulation to cum. After all, the most powerful sex organ is actually the brain.
In your case, if you love your husband that is, try other things first before you start having intercourse. Try oral sex or fingers until you're on the verge of an orgasm, then put it in. Hopefully he can last for a couple of minutes until you cum. I know it's not ideal but you really love each other than you have to put up. But he needs to admit to his problem though.

[Going_In_Circles]

Hi,

I am a young man with the same problem. about 40% of men have this problem. There are few information that you might find usefull.

1.there are anaesthetic creams that decrease the sensation of the glans and penis. IF he uses them, he must put on a condom, otherwise you will lose sensation too.

2.It is a good idea if the male put on some condoms in top of each other, to decrease the sensation and thus prolonging his time.

3.some men find the sounds that are given by the sexual partner during sex very stimulating. Therefore try to avoid giving these sounds otherwise they get too excited too quickly.

4.avoid giving him oral sex everytime because this excites him too much too early on. This gives him more time for penetration.

5.make him massage you genitals, give you oral sex, then use sex toys, eg vibrators, then penetration. If you masturbate, make him do it for you. Men enjoy doing these things to their sexual partners.

6. every man have a much longer time to ejaculate during his second or third round of sexual intercourse. Therefore you need to;
-to increase his desire to have sex by the followig hints; feed him high protein diet (meat, chicken, eggs, nuts). this is to increase his semen volume so he can ejaculate for the second and third time.
-a man can have a second or third erection after a latency time of 30mins-1.5hrs, therefore make him ejaculate an hour before planned sexual intercourse. So plan lots of time for the event.

7.Make HIM use the sequeeze technique. It is not painfull despite how severe the pressure needed to sequeeze. This technique will increase his second round time to ejaculate. He may lose some of his stiffness, but he still enjoys another round of sex. stimulate him to restore his erection. Make use the technique as much as needed. It is successful if little or no semen comes out.

there are more ideas to use. These are the most effective. Hope you find them usefull.

bye

[KevinAn]

Hi there. Kevin here.

The creams are not advised to use. They are causing a lot of problems.Some cause skin irritation, some cause so much numbness to the penis that you can't even feel aroused, some potions have off-putting smells and others just simply don't work.

There are other ways to solve your problem. I was suffering from premature mature ejaculation and did a lot of research online.


I found a free blog by Randy. I advice you to check it at
http://premature-ejaculation-exercise.blogspot.com/

He is also running a Facebook Group that you can discuss your issues.

Have a nice day
Kevin