Testosterone Deficiency

[livingwith]

My husband & I split up recently and he now tells me the reason he is so mean is because of his hormone deficiency. So because he couldn’t perform, he acted like an overbearing thug to prove to himself & me that he is a man?!? So if he gets treatment do all of our problems go away? I’m seriously looking for an answer. Help.
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[KBB]

Not sure that treatment will fix everything. Counseling may be needed as I expect you are angry. My husband recently lost his job because of his behavior due to testosterone deficiency. He is mean also. We are working to adjust his dose as he just began treatment, and is still having behavior issues. I am looking forward to his dose being effective so we can begin some talking and perhaps counseling. Right now, he feels attacked any time I want to talk about something bothering me, and will come back at me verbally - not a good time yet to talk. I understand how you separated, but if you had something good before, it may be worth seeing what treatment can do.

[daveriomech]

Lisa my name is Lou for years i struggled through relationships because of my t difficiency. Breaking up with women thinking it was them not i, but in fact is was me let him go and have his levels checked and corrected you will see a different person, more passion and more of a man. Testosterone difficiency effects a mans world, im living proof your best way to approach it is being supportive and you will see a change for the best in time not overnight, if in fact his T levels were low fixing them will make him a different person.

[dineshsingh]

Testosterone is a hormone responsible for normal growth and development of the male sex and reproduction organs, including the penis, the testicles, scrotum, the prostate and seminal vesicles. Testosterone promotes the development of the secondary male sex characteristics such as bone mass, fat distribution, muscle, hair patterns and voice modulation (a deep voice). It also maintains energy levels, sexual desire, fertility and mood.I will suggest you go for Testosterone Therapy u will be sure fine.

[learningaboutT]

Like the others who have responded, I doubt that any one medication can fix all problems in a marriage.

That said, however.... I totally understand your frustration. As a young newlywed I expected things to be happy in general, and sex to be hot and heavy, and that didn't happen. He was grouchy, irritable by the slightest things, and generally unpleasant on most days. If I wanted sex, I had to initiate everything. I mean everything. I had to decide when, where, what position, I did everything. The worst part was the constant feeling of rejection because often he couldn't get hard or stay hard.

His participation level consisted of being present and getting hard about 2 nights a week. He would only get hard if I rubbed him a certain way for at least 30 minutes. Anything different and he would lose the erection. Sex was not much fun. It was draining me and made me feel very angry that I was having to do so much of the "work" and especially as a young newlywed. Also made me feel very undesirable and abnormal. I resented him all the time.

When we learned he had low testosterone, under 200, with a norm being more like 300-900, I was SOOOO relieved.... it explained so much. Why he would sleep in every day and have no energy. All the grumpiness, moodiness, and lack of desire. The diagnosis meant there might be hope - maybe a therapy would exist that could actually CHANGE things and HELP HIM FEEL BETTER!!!

He has started on Testim 5g, and I hope this helps us.

[learningaboutT]

Wow, does this sound familiar. You are describing my life with my husband to a "T." He is mean, mean, mean. He has had problems in every relationship in his life, with his brother, his son, people he works with, even his friends... you name it, he loses patience and goes off on them, then he doesn't understand why they won't talk to him.

The T deficiency may not explain all of it... but it helps me to understand him and to want to be more patient with him.